Booking as a couple

Mixed couples are a significant part of the male escort market in Britain, and most agencies list which of their escorts take couple bookings. The arrangement works well when it has been discussed properly in advance and badly when it has not.

What a couple booking usually is

Most commonly an evening arranged primarily around the woman, with her partner present. Sometimes he participates, sometimes he watches, sometimes he is there for part of it and not the rest. All three are ordinary and none of them needs justifying to the escort.

A smaller number of bookings are arranged the other way, with the male partner as the focus. Escorts who take those bookings say so on their profile, and it is worth checking rather than assuming.

What to settle between the two of you first

• Whose evening it isThe single most useful thing to be clear about, and the thing most often left vague. An escort cannot balance two sets of unstated expectations.
• What each partner will and will not doIncluding any contact between the escort and the male partner. Better settled at a kitchen table than in a hotel room.
• What stops itAn agreed way for either partner to end the booking early, understood by both before it starts.
• Whether jealousy is genuinely absentNot whether it has been talked past. A couple booking is a poor instrument for repairing a relationship and a good one for a relationship that is already steady.

What to tell the escort

All of the above, in short form, before confirming. Escorts who take couple bookings are experienced at reading a room, but they are reading it in real time, and a sentence in advance does more than an hour of guessing. Anything that is off the table should be said plainly; nothing on that list will surprise anyone.

Rates

Couple bookings usually carry a higher rate than a single booking of the same length, and the figure is set by the escort. It should be agreed at the same time as everything else. Length matters more here than in a single booking: an hour rarely works for three people, and most couple bookings are arranged for two hours or more.

Where it goes wrong

Almost always in the same way: one partner has agreed to something they did not actually want, and it becomes apparent on the night. The escort is the person least able to fix that. The conversation that prevents it happens weeks earlier and is not about the escort at all.

Afterwards

Couples who book once and enjoy it usually book again, often with the same escort, and the second booking is invariably easier than the first. The part that takes the effort is the conversation beforehand, and it only has to be had properly once.